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Defend the cause of the weak and fatherless; maintain the rights of the poor and oppressed. Rescue the weak and needy; deliver them from the hand of the wicked.
I’m going to do something a little different here today, but I believe God laid this on my heart, so I will follow His lead.
In mid-February, a friend of mine posted a note on Facebook about a homeschool family in a crisis – a real crisis.
The mom in this homeschool family, Grace, found out devastating news that has forever changed her life. [Note: I’m trying not to identify the sex, so the following wording is awkward.] One of Grace’s children told Grace that the child’s father had sexually abused them. Grace, without skipping a beat, spoke with another child privately and carefully asked if daddy had ever done anything to them. This child confirmed Grace’s worst nightmare. Can you imagine?! As it turns out, several of Grace’s children were sexually abused by their father.
I reached out to my friend privately and asked about the situation: where did this family live? Did they need any help? How could I help? I wanted Grace and her children to be cared for by safe people who understood sex abuse and wouldn’t cause more harm, and if there were any resources I had, I wanted to pass them along quickly. One thing I’ve learned very well from blogging is getting immediate help to someone in a crisis is so important.
I was surprised to hear that this family lives in my area! Not only that, my friend knew Grace personally!
Back to the story: Grace rounded up her kids in the van and called our mutual friend for help while driving to her house.
My friend did the right thing. She encouraged Grace to report to the police and without any hesitation, Grace did. Grace knew this was criminal behavior and went straight to the authorities accompanied by our friend. Oh my word, I have tears in my eyes right now. It doesn’t always work out like this, does it? What respect I have for Grace!
Grace and her children found a safe place to stay for the night, and the following day, Grace’s husband was arrested. He has been in jail for 27 days now, and will most likely spend a long, long time in prison.
Since this time, I have connected with Grace online, and I also stopped by for a quick visit at her home and met her beautiful children.
Tomorrow, my friend and I are meeting with Grace for lunch. However, it’s going to be a tough day emotionally for Grace. You see, tomorrow is her 20th wedding anniversary.
A month ago, she was looking forward to this occasion, but 3-1/2 weeks ago, her world was turned upside down. The man and the best friend she thought she married turned out to be a fraud. The father of her children is not a protective, loving father, but an abuser who has done serious harm to his family. Her husband has been living this lie for many years.
Grace was married at a young age. She has a high school education. Grace has not been in the workforce; she’s been at home raising her sweet babies and homeschooling them. This . . . . was not in her plan.
She knows that the life that she had planned cannot be, but Grace is being proactive, trying to get things in order. She has plans to get schooling and is trying to figure out the rest of the details for her family. I hope to hear more tomorrow and encourage her in any way I can.
As I think about it, tomorrow is the 20th anniversary of a marriage built on lies and harm. It obviously still has many emotional connections for Grace. But I was wondering if we as a community at SSB could shower Grace with love, support, and compassion today as she begins a new life.
Here at SSB, we’ve had wives of pedophiles tell their stories and you all have been so kind and encouraging. I gave Grace the link to a blog article written three years ago that still brings women here from search engines and gives them hope. Being the wife of a pedophile is a very, very lonely place to be.
Please pray for Grace. Feel free to leave comments for her. If you feel so inclined to help her financially, here is a fund site set up. It’s going to take a lot of money to keep this family afloat. There is no income coming in . . . zilch, nada. Now tuition, childcare, and therapy need to be added to their budget on top of the normal mortgage, utilities, food bills. Oh . . . . . did I mention she’s the mother of ten children? Yes, 10 children. Now imagine the cost involved.
Thank you in advanced for your prayers, words of encouragement, and financial help for Grace and her sweet family.
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