Christiandom seems to be making a mess out of something beautiful God intended for married couples to enjoy. Sex is only for procreation? Orgasms are demonic?
There’s a whole book in the Bible that seems to describe a mutually pleasurable experience of sex between husband and wife:
As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.
Song of Solomon 2: 3-4
My beloved is mine, and I am his: he feedeth among the lilies. 2:16
How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices!
Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon.
A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. 3:10-12
See!!!! This is good and godly! There’s so much more in Song of Solomon where the two lovers cannot get enough of each other and use very descriptive words and imagery.
To me, the idea of sex is an obvious way in which Christians can truly say “intelligent design,” right? You can let your mind wander about why God made man and women, how He carefully designed man and woman, paid special attention to the positioning of body parts, etc. He had something up his sleeve, didn’t He? Why is the Song of Solomon book in the Bible, anyway?
Yet, respected Pastor Doug Wilson defined specific roles for the sexual act between a husband and wife and put a damper on the idea of the sex act in marriage as a mutually enjoyable experience.
Here is a controversial quote from his book, Fidelity: What it Means to be a One-Woman Man, which went viral in the summer of 2012:
When we quarrel with the way the world is, we find that the world has ways of getting back at us. In other words, however we try, the sexual act cannot be made into an egalitarian pleasuring party. A man penetrates, conquers, colonizes, plants. A woman receives, surrenders, accepts.
This is of course offensive to all egalitarians, and so our culture has rebelled against the concept of authority and submission in marriage. This means that we have sought to suppress the concepts of authority and submission as they relate to the marriage bed.
Someone sent me another very bad example of twisting scripture to make sex into an act solely for the purpose of producing offspring. And the sad thing is that people believe this kind of stuff, just as they believed Wilson. Hold on to your hats, people.
There are enough challenging and hurtful things going on in Christiandom. Can we please leave the beautiful gift of sex that God created for couples to enjoy out of the mess? Thank you very much.
Here is Reddit conversation on the topic.