What does perfect love mean? Is living in fear unbiblical?
A comment came in on an older thread that has been quite heated. It was from a blogger who has disagreed with a recent blog post here. Unfortunately, we are still not in agreement and the point of the original article seems to have been lost.
However, with this latest comment, my panties got in a wad – – big time. I’m not offended by the words personally, but by the dangerous message it can send to survivors.
I’d like to open the discussion on this thread to be solely regarding the content in the two quoted paragraphs below (not the issues debated from the other thread). It might be a little bit of a challenge to separate the two, but let’s give it a try. If you have something to add directly to the linked comment, please do so on that article.
While on the surface, these words may seem fine and Biblical, I find the way they are used to be potentially dangerous for those living in abusive environments at home, or church, or even on support blogs. Do you see why? Let’s learn from each other.
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Thank you for writing an article about people living in fear. I am deeply grieved in my spirit that so many people live in fear of an email arriving in their inbox. That level of fear does not come from God. God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. I pray that those who are living in fear, any kind of fear, and especially fear that is a result of being abused, would run to God for healing. My Bible tells me that perfect love casts out all fear. What is that perfect love? God. God = LOVE (I Jn. 4:8). When we allow ourselves to be wrapped in the love of God, our fears will dissipate and disappear.
As a blogger who desires to support those who have been abused, I would encourage you not to foster those fears, but to teach them the love of Jesus instead. It is not natural to be afraid of receiving an email from someone you have already interacted with, especially if that person really cares about you. I care about all my commenters. I love them all and want only what is best for them, but I will not mollycoddle them to remain trapped in their own minds either. I pray that God would free those living in fear, as they come to truly know the love of Jesus.
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