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If you are stopping by after listening to the interview on The Drew Marshall Show, a warm welcome to you!!
These are not fun subjects. They have affected me and a lot of my readers to the core. But if you took the time to look up my blog, perhaps something struck a chord.
Yesterday, Drew asked me to send him my most popular posts with a brief summary. I thought I’d post part of the e-mail I sent him in case newcomers wanted to dig a little deeper. There was not enough time to delve into these topics in the interview.
In Honor of Hannah: I cannot read this without crying, Drew. This is my very deep and personal story of how the spiritual abuse in our church caused my adult daughter to go crazy and leave our home abruptly. In this culture (Homeschool Movement), parents think they own their adult children. It’s horrific and you can read how I come to grips with what we did to her.
Calvary Chapel Pastor Bob Grenier Sues his Son and Former Member: In this post we read personal testimonies from Calvary Chapel Visalia Pastor Bob Grenier’s adult children about the alleged physical and sexual abuse they incurred by their father. The abuse of his children in addition to spiritual abuse of church members and staff is well-known, has been brought to elders, pastors, even to the head pastor of the 2,000-church empire, Chuck Smith, who says his hands are tied and can’t remove him. He has removed other pastors for far less. He chooses to look the other way. This case is a microcosm of probably hundreds of cases of abuse within the Calvary Chapel franchise of churches as reported on Calvary Chapel Abuse blog. The Calvary Chapel authority structure allows for no accountability for head pastors and so abuse continues just like we see with the Boy Scouts, Catholic Church. Media has been very quiet on these cases.
In this post: Homeschool Movement, I expose a subculture within the general umbrella of homeschooling which includes ultra conservative, fundamentalist teachings and agendas: Patriarchy, courtship, quiver-full, modesty rules, emphasis on girls remaining virgins and having purity ceremonies, etc. A whole generation of kids who have grown up in this culture (like my daughter, age 26) and are now coming to grips with the legalistic and cult-like culture in which they were raised. Some agendas went too far and a lot of these kids are having real problems with addictive tendencies, difficult mental health issues, etc. Parents are sometimes abandoning or shunning these young adults who have chosen a different path than which they were raised. It looks and smells cult-like. The end result is the same as with cult victims, with detoxing and therapy sometimes necessary to recover. I am partner on Homeschoolers Anonymous blog.
Sovereign Grace Ministries is another church group that is now being sued by a group of sex/physical abuse victims and their families in a class action lawsuit. Church leaders allegedly failed to report abuse cases and even interfered with parents who were trying to report cases to police. This lawsuit is growing and more names/churches have been added. In the last year or so about 25 churches have left cutting half of their total population, yet former President CJ Mahaney (and defendant) continues to speak publicly at conferences as if nothing is wrong and his friends give him a free pass. This story is connected with the lawsuit, but also connects with the Homeschooling Movement (owning adult children) and deals with spanking of adult children. In the comments, you read more of our personal story. Painful and disgusting, I’m so glad I am free from that craziness.
Spiritual Sounding Board has become a community. People comment when something connects with them. Personal stories are shared here, we discuss unhealthy agendas and trends in church, we discuss all sorts of topics related to spiritual abuse, unhealthy church trends, etc.
Feel free to comment at any time (whether it pertains to the topic or not). I welcome your communication and personal stories (send to spiritualsb @ gmail.com) Thanks for stopping by. Feel free to hang a while 🙂 ~Julie Anne
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