Greg Morse is back at Desiring God offering his words of wisdom to men. Last year he addressed the problem of effeminent men. Then there were the “not safe, but good” men. Now he’s after the “nice guys.”
I heard it again the other day for what must be the hundredth time. “How would I describe him? Hmm. Well, he’s a nice guy.” In other words, “Meh.”
Where is he going with this?
What I am talking about is something different: an unexceptional, unnoticeable, saltless, make-peace-with-the-world existence unbefitting to men born of God (and women born of God, for that matter). A life that starts as a groan and ends in a whisper — with little to take notice of in between. A life this evil generation takes no notice of.
What kind of man is he talking about?
I am talking about a polite existence with no signs of that otherworldliness, that light, that aroma of Christ that is either the fragrance of life to those who are living or the aroma of death to those who are not (2 Corinthians 2:15). I am talking about churchmen who come and go from the gatherings lacking any scent at all, unanimated with spiritual life while being neighborly, polite, civil.
I still don’t get it. What is wrong with being a “nice guy?” Exactly what scent does the right spiritual life give off? I’m guessing it’s not vanilla and lavender. Perhaps it’s more like Old Spice. What is Greg Morse looking for in a man?
Manhood is much more than what it shouldn’t be. In Christ, it
-not merely lacks cowardice, but possesses courage.
-not merely lacks bad views of God, but burns with biblical convictions.
-not merely lacks a domineering spirit, but models godly leadership.
-not merely avoids self-dependence, but commits to prayer.
-not merely avoids habitual sin, but cultivates habitual repentance.
-not merely says “no” to illicit desires, but says “yes” to the local church.
Wow…that is a lot! Strong, but not too strong. Courageous, but also dependent on God. A sinner, but a role model. And, whatever you do, don’t say “no” to the church. We don’t want any pathetic, unexceptional men running around with illicit desires. This sounds like an idolized version of a man.
No wonder there’s no room for the nice guys out there. They’ll never measure up.