The Power of a Transformed Wife, Lori Alexander, Marriage, Submission
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Chapter 6 – Easy Conflict Resolution
I can’t believe Lori actually got an entire chapter out of this topic. Her advice for conflict resolution is this: don’t argue.
That’s it. You’d think with such an “easy” response to conflict resolution she could have ended the chapter with the first paragraph. Alas, we are not so fortunate and must read on.
Lori dreams of pastors preaching about her sage advice of “simply don’t argue” so that people can focus on their roles that God has called them to instead of learning communication skills. She states that there are plenty of verses in the Bible which tell us not to argue yet does not provide one example. Then she goes on to say,
I used to relish a good fight…
Come on, now! Deep down inside Lori still relishes a good fight. The target audience has simply changed from Ken to any reader who would dare challenge her views, or any boogey monsters that would dare challenge God-ordained gender roles (i.e. feminism, women working outside the home, and women pastors).
Lori moves on to tell wives that when the two of you simply cannot agree on anything the husband gets to make the final decision. Because:
This is God’s prescription for arguing, not mine.
Where, Lori, does it say in the Bible that the husband gets the final word on any decisions? I don’t like how Lori easily throws the God card for her answers. This is a crutch answer that is used to shut down conversation.
The chapter finishes out with a long-winded portion from Ken. Let me save you the grief and simply state that Ken wants you to ask yourself if your conflict resolution skills are fleshly or spiritual. Let’s look at a couple of Ken’s profound thoughts:
Imagine what type of relationship your marriage could explode into if you fully threw yourself into the loving arms of your husband and allowed him to lead you and love you.
Until such time, I encourage you to use your biblical and psychological marriage tools to create a semblance of what God wants in a Christian marriage, but don’t for an instant think that there isn’t a much higher plane for those who are willing to seek out a true biblical marriage of a loving husband leading a wife who joyfully submits.
Marriages will explode when a wife joyfully submits. Amazing!
It’s too bad that the only things learned from this chapter are don’t argue, and wives give up everything to your husbands. Communication skills and conflict resolution skills are valuable tools to have in all types of relationships.
Come back for the next chapter on S.E.X.! Oh, I can’t wait.
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